A family meeting kit for the one who keeps everything running
All Hands on Deck
For the daughter who's been rowing alone. A plan to bring everyone aboard.
A short recorded workshop, six fillable planning tools and three bonuses that turn scattered worry into a shared plan your whole family can follow. Use the PDFs, or work together online in the Google Sheet version.
Most siblings aren't refusing to help.
They don't see what you see, and no one has asked them for something specific. This kit gives you a calm, clear way to change that.
- You know Mom's medication list by heart. Your siblings aren't sure what she takes.
- Every call from the doctor's office comes to you.
- You ask for help in the group chat and it goes quiet.
- You love your parent, and you're running out of room to carry this by yourself.
Start with the workshop
Watch it once, on your own time, then run the meeting with confidence.
I walk you through the whole thing, from the first invitation to the follow-up email.
- How to invite siblings so no one feels ambushed
- What to say when the conversation gets tense
- How to leave with real owners and dates, not vague promises
Six tools, used in order
Each one is a fillable PDF you can type into or print. The whole set also comes as one Google Sheet, so siblings in different cities can fill it in together.
1Pre-Meeting Fact Sheet
Puts the same medical and practical facts in front of everyone before you meet.
2Agenda and Ground Rules
A time-boxed plan and shared rules that keep the conversation calm and on track.
3Contribution Map
Shows what each person can realistically give: time, money, skills, even from a distance.
4Role and Task Sheet
Gives every task one owner and one backup, and protects your time off.
5Cost-Share Worksheet
Lays out monthly costs and counts caregiving hours alongside dollars.
6Meeting Summary and Follow-Up
Captures what you agreed and gives you a ready-to-send follow-up email.
Three bonuses for the weeks after
The meeting is the start. These help you hold the plan, and yourself, together.
The Captain's Log
A 30-day guided journal with a two-minute daily check-in, so you notice what you carry and what you can set down.
Say It Calmly
25 copy-and-paste scripts for hard family conversations, from asking for one specific task to resetting the group chat.
Grab-and-Go Hospital Sheet
A medical snapshot for ER visits, plus the questions to ask on discharge day.
$47, one-time payment, instant access
How it works
Fill in the Fact Sheet and send it with the Agenda 3 to 5 days ahead.
Follow the Agenda and work through the Contribution Map, Role Sheet and Cost-Share together.
Complete the Meeting Summary and send the follow-up email.
Hold a short check-in and update the plan as needs change.
Is this for you?
This is for you if
- You’re the one everyone calls when something happens with Mom or Dad.
- You’ve asked for help in the group chat and it went quiet.
- Your family lives in different places and no one is sure who’s doing what.
- You want a plan in place before the next fall, hospital stay or crisis.
- You love your parent, and you’re tired of carrying this by yourself.
It may not be for you if
- Your family already meets and shares the work well.
- You need legal, financial or medical advice for a specific decision.
- You want a done-for-you care plan rather than tools to build one together.
Meet your guide
I’ve spent more than 20 years helping families share the load.
I’m Bahamia Bailey, a licensed practical nurse, and I’ve walked alongside families everywhere care happens: at the bedside, at home, in doctors’ offices, out in the community and over the phone.
I’ve also launched employer and federal care navigation programs from the ground up. Seeing care from both the bedside and the boardroom has given me a rare view of how the system really works, and of where families get stuck.
All Hands on Deck is the tool I wish every family had before that first hard conversation. It gives you a clear plan, the right words and a simple way to decide who helps with what. Everyone ends up on the same page, and you’re no longer carrying it all alone.
Bahamia
Founder, AskEldervisor
Bring everyone aboard
- The recorded workshop
- All six fillable tools, plus the full kit as one PDF
- The Google Sheet version for working together online
- The Captain's Log, Say It Calmly and the Hospital Sheet
- Instant access from your phone or computer
Questions
Do my siblings need to buy their own copy?
No. Share the tools with the family members who'll be at your meeting. That's what they're for.
Can I fill these in on my computer?
Yes. Open them in the free Adobe Acrobat Reader to type in any box, check the boxes, and see totals add up on the Cost-Share Worksheet. Every page also prints cleanly.
Can my family work on it together online?
Yes. The kit includes a Google Sheet version of all six tools. Make your own copy, share it with your siblings, and everyone can fill in their part from wherever they are.
Some of my family lives far away. Will this still work?
Yes. The tools are built for families spread across cities and time zones, and the Contribution Map shows exactly what long-distance siblings can own.
What if a family meeting has already gone badly?
Then this is a good place to start over. The ground rules and agenda keep the next conversation on what your parent needs now, not on old hurts.
Is this legal or financial advice?
No. This is educational guidance and planning tools. For legal or financial questions, talk with a qualified professional in your parent's state.